Don’t judge, but rather take notice. We shouldn’t judge because there is a reason behind everything that we aren’t aware of. We don’t know all of the background knowledge or inner working of a human being to be able have a say on what they do or who they are. Plus, nobody is perfect so don’t expect anyone to live up to those unrealistic expectations.
Somebody may be very good at sports, but suck at public speaking. Someone may suck at singing, but be really good at painting. Not everyone was given every single ability because if they were, then they’d be the model of perfection, which is nonexistent.
A few examples of times I could’ve recently judged someone, but instead took notice are:
On the first day of my communications class, I noticed that my teacher was not so good at public speaking. She then later noted how she only recently came into the teaching profession. That piece of information gave me the background information I needed in order to understand why she was the way she was. She was not good at public speaking because prior to her new profession she had not had a lot of practice talking in front of a large group of people. Instead she had worked in a work environment that consisted of daily back and forth communication. That also gave me the wisdom that not all communications teachers have to be good at the oral part of communication. They all specialize in different areas whether it be oral, writing, the history, and the numerous other types.
I will admit – I have in the past judged my brother on his singing, but I have no right to because I can’t sing and not everyone was blessed with spectacular musical abilities like Michael Bublé. Today, when I was listening to a song and he joined in, instead of judging his clarity and pitch, I decided to push away those thoughts and just take notice in the fact that he was enjoying himself. Yes, he is my brother and he annoys me sometimes (okay, most of time), but that doesn’t mean that I should ruin the moment and spread hate, because it won’t do any good for me or him. Nobody is perfect and we were all born the way we were. There is nothing we can do about that except love ourselves and others the way we/they are.
Moral of the story: take notice and be more understanding, analyze the situation, think of possibilities, and remember no one is perfect, so don’t hold anyone to those standards.
